By: Politik Logik
Well as everyone knows I’m a big comic nut, I’ve kinda always hated Lois Lane. The dynamic between her & Superman aka Clark Kent is a funny one. Lois doesn’t respect Clark Kent due to being a bit socially inept. Now the funny thing is that Clark is pretending to be this inept person to keep his true identity secret. Now what’s funny is that she gives Clark a lot of attitude, & only really respects his mind. So like the rest of the world when Superman comes along her interest is peaked on who he is & why is he able to do the things he does. So if you look at their relationship dynamic, it’s actually a “Groupie/Rapper” relationship.
Superman represents something that some women like having, a man that is so unique that he’s a “one of one”. Now what’s funny is that this dynamic backfires if he loses that special “ability”. Case-in-point when Clark gave up his abilities in the movie “Superman 2”. Clark reveals to Lois who he really is & gives up being Superman so they can be together. As they are going out to eat, Clark gets into a fight & loses. Lois gets real slick with her mouth & says “I wish I could be with the man that I fell in love with.” As if she was disgusted cause Clark took a loss. As a boy I was like “Yo, really?” & becoming older I saw this played out in real life. Some guys had money, a car, or a high social status. Everything is cool until something changes & next thing you know their woman is gone with the wind.
Another dynamic is the attention that Superman gets from other “elite” folks. Remember even actresses, models, & other meta-humans are in competition with Lois Lane. Clark’s first love Lana Lang is a dime & actually knew all about Clark. So Lois has to be on her best game, cause Clark has options. Some of the ladies only want Superman cause he’s a meta-human, so is their intent genuine? Probably not, but Lois still has to keep herself on point.
Also what’s quite interesting is that Lois Lane hates having to share Superman with the world. Now remember he’s a superhero, so his responsibility is to the world & particularly Metropolis. Therefore a few dates, movies, & even sex will be ruined by a sudden emergency. Can it become frustrating yes, but remember this is what you wanted. There’s always a trade off when you get with someone who is in the limelight. You have to accept the pros & cons of a relationship. Apparently Lois hasn’t, but hopefully in recent years she has learned her role in the relationship.
So what have we learned, let’s look at the facts:
1. Know if you have a “Groupie/Rapper” dynamic.
2. What is their true motivation to being in a relationship with you? Is it due to having something special or being able to do something for them.
3. Accept and deal with the benefits & consequences of your relationship.
4. Know that things may not change in the immediate future or at all.
5. There are others out there who will be with your mate at the drop of hat, So keep yourself on point.
6. Be mindful of what your mate does & that this makes them the person you are in “love” with.
The next chapter of Superhero Girlfriends: Part 2 – Betty Banner Down Ass Chick or Victim Of Abuse?
Politik Logik is a contributor to Geek Mode and this article as well as his other postings can be found on his blogspot “The Logik Thesis Papers”